Do you remember being a kid and every day seemed like an adventure? We never knew what was going to happen or where we were going to go. Now, we knowingly control everything. Every job interview invariably asks the question, “Where do you see yourself in five and ten years?”
It’s hard for me to imagine what my life would be like in this span of time. I think through the past decade and I NEVER would have predicted the path my life has taken. I don’t believe I’m alone in this notion either. So, why must we answer this unfortunate question standing at the doorway of uncertainty?
On the other hand, I am thrilled to talk about my past achievements, and maybe even more enthusiastic to talk about my most recent “mishaps.” You know, those “situations” you walked away from with knowledge as the greatest gift. I’d be delighted to discuss my 4-year relationship that ended this past year with me as the 3rd wheel. In fact, I’d love to share the details of how its ending transformed my life in the most beautiful and unimaginable way.
And that’s the thing. Life is the most hellish roller coaster. That is, if you choose to see it that way. I’ve always loved the little, anxiety provoking creaks of the initial climb to the top of a ride. They are the little noises that ALWAYS precede the abrupt descent into madness and joy, blended as one.
But again, isn’t life like this sometimes? Maybe that’s why I believe in God. We gotta believe there’s someone driving this thing. If I think back to all of the events of my life and the moments truly magical in nature, I could NEVER have planned them.
As for me? I choose the magic! I choose the violent adventure of the thump-punching of my heart beating against my chest cavity through the moments of fear woven into blind faith. I choose to feel, witness and live the adventure of being alive. Why am I rambling on about violence and magic and unicorns? Because it matters. It matters now more than ever.
Where is our heart? Where is the heart that beats for all of us? Where is our faith? Where is our willingness to see the anxiety through and not medicate, not distract, but instead, show up!
I was stopped at an intersection the other day on my way to work. There was a woman in her car waiting in the middle of an intersection to make a left turn. Instead of continuing to wait for the 5 or 6 cars to pass by, she pulled out her phone.
That really got my attention. At this point, it’s a normal behavior. But why is it a normal behavior for all of us? Why are we so willing to live in distraction and avoid what is uncomfortable or scary? Do we realize what we are missing by being asleep?
What solutions to our life’s drama, to our world’s needs, are we completely missing?
Are we even living? How do we know what’s actually occurring now in our lives let alone what we project to happen in the next 5 to 10 years if we’re looking at our phone for something interesting to pop up on Instagram?
How many missed opportunities have we had because we were looking away from them? How many new friends, new lovers, old friends, and (gasp) old lovers, might we meet again walking through life if we had the nerve to put our distractions away and live?
When is the last time you felt joy deep inside your chest?
When is the last time you experienced pleasure without looking for it? It just showed up because you were there… you were present and you were open to receiving the gift of its magic.
Magic happens when we wake up to our lives and choose whole-heartedly to be in them. Brene Brown talks about the willingness to be vulnerable. That’s exactly what this is. You have to choose it. We have to be willing to allow the loneliness in. To feel it in order to understand it. To understand it, we can transform it. We have to choose to feel bored sometimes so we can ask ourselves questions about why we’re bored at all. What’s missing in my life today? What needs to change and am I willing to change it right now?
Wake up with me! ASK YOURSELF QUESTIONS!
My friends, this is the journey of living. I don’t ever want to be that person that turns around at 80 years old and says, “What the hell did I do all this time?” I want to know. I want to remember. I want to contribute to others and to this world. I want to be excited to talk about the role I played in my contributions to this world. I want to say, I lived. I loved. And I did it so f*cking well.
I have a challenge for you. Yes, YOU. Put your phone away and go out into the world. Even if just for a day. Experience it for everything it has to offer you. Go where you feel you want to go. Smile. Feel where it comes from. Talk to strangers. Listen intently. Play! Do something you have been thinking about, but it “wasn’t the right time.”
Do it NOW!
If you think it’s going to be hard, it’s because you have strayed so far from your heart, you’ve forgotten what it is to experience life from this sacred place. Choose it. Live it. If even for a day. I promise you this, your life will change.
Brenna Steiner is Holistic Wellness Coach who teaches and empowers her clients' approach to living by integrating mindset and behavior modification through coaching, nutrition education and online exercise programming. Since 2006, Brenna has been serving clients in the cities of New York, Washington D.C. and Los Angeles and is now offering one-on-one remote consulting with clients both near and far. For a complimentary consultation, Brenna can be reached at email@example.com or directly through Facebook @bodywellnessbybrenna.